The Energizing Edge
Here’s what I’ve seen in working with hundreds of spiritual directors. We all like the middle.
By the middle I mean that comfortable, safe, familiar way of being that gets smiles and affirmations. By the middle I mean the good tools and tricks that we have learned from our past training and experience. By the middle I mean nice.
Here’s what I’ve seen in working with hundreds of clients. Clients like the edge.
By the edge I mean real, risky, and intuitive. By the edge I mean dropping assumptions and seeking out the unknown. By the edge I mean telling the truth with care and courage.
Some years ago I was working with Evan. In spite of all of my efforts, we kept coming back to the same mantra about how he felt stuck at work and was tired of being alone. Boom! I got hit with a powerful dose of boredom. So I reached for my edge and said, “Evan, we keep coming back to this same place, and frankly I get bored. What’s beyond the horizon of your stuckness?” After he startled a bit, he started talking and our spiritual work together finally launched.
There are enough nice spiritual directors in the world, and, of course, it’s okay to be nice sometimes. But finding our edge is a lot more exciting. Clients need our edginess.
And, more importantly, we take up less space on the edge and there is a lot more space for the Divine to enter and guide our work.